I often hear people talk of the grass being greener on the other side of the fence. This is a common misconception that can lead to much torment in our daily lives if we fail to see the real truth behind the statement. For to believe that the grass is greener on the other side you have to first believe that you have no control over the watering and seeding that can take place on your side.
If you constantly look to other pursuits as more worthwhile, or other partners as better suited for you, or as someone else having more of what you want, you’ll be in for a world of disappointment. You have to first look at yourself and what you've been doing to procure what you desire most before you can accurately make an assessment of what someone else has, or appears to have, or even if you would really want what’s on the other side of the fence.
This is a very intimate discussion you must have with yourself and your soul. You must first sit in a quiet place that’s undisturbed by the loudness of life around you, then you must ask yourself the tough questions, and lastly you have to be honest with yourself about why you may or may not have what you desire most…
Am I the person I want to be? Am I fulfilled in my daily life? Do I have all of the financial resources I would like? Do I love myself? Do I believe I deserve more? Do I believe I have the creative potential to acquire all of my goals? What’s stopping me from doing what I desire most? Am I complete in myself without needing anything from anyone? Etc…
These are just some of the questions you have to ask yourself before you look at someone else as the beacon for what you want most out of life. Introspection can often times lead to the answers about yourself that you are seeking to understand more fully. Through meditation and prayer we can connect to the root of our angst and the real root of our power as individuals.
As we see in the picture above the grass is green on both sides of the fence. In no way is the left or the right any different in appearance. What we also see in the picture is the bending of the fence which can represent the twists and turns in our life, our decisions about how to proceed.
We all have the great power and authority to make decisions about where to go, who to be, how to live, and where we want life to take us. Those who truly understand that we are the walkers of our own path, and that we can make any path we so choose, live their lives in a way that produces a “greener" nature for any choice they make along life’s journey.
I believe that no choice is inherently good or bad, it’s simply a choice we make. The gravity of our decisions are what produces the fruit or the chaff in our life. If you are going through a tough time tight now in your life and are struggling with wanting and desiring more, look first to your motivations, and then to your view on whether you are in control or not.
We have been blessed by the beautiful gift of choice, but what accompanies that gift is where most people lose their way. No matter what choice we choose it still needs proper care and attendance. It needs constant effort and appreciation, it needs our 100% effort or even the greatest of choices can lead to a futile end.
Life does not give you gold if you don’t know where to look. Life gives us exactly what we work for, life gives us opportunities to cultivate our lot and whether we choose to be good stewards of the land we’re given is up to us. The results of our labor provide the answers of our farming.
If you feel slighted in nature because you don’t have what you desire most, look no further than the choices you made to get there. Look no further than your outlook on life and your views on what you’re worth.
I’m here to tell you that you can have the life you want most, you can have security and prosperity, you can have love and be loved, but you first have to believe you’re worth all of those things.
Never make a life decision without first asking yourself am I willing to give 100% to this endeavor… I can attest to this principle for I have made decisions just like anyone else that have not produced the fruit I was hoping for. When I look at why things didn't work out the way I wanted them to, I have only myself to blame. Sure it’s easier to blame outside circumstances or other people for our failures, but the real value of our efforts can only be judged by our honesty in their pursuits.
Fear of failure or fear of success can be the negative, motivational factors behind not achieving your dreams. But in saying that, I have to point out one very important thing: Fear is an illusion, and if you don’t realize that you’ll be forever falling down the rabbit hole like, Alice.
Make a conscious effort to ask yourself why some things have worked out and others haven’t, be completely honest with yourself about their perspective outcomes and I’m sure you’ll be better prepared for your next great adventure.
Make goals, short and long-term ones, make a vision board, focus on your dreams and how you can manifest them, and never let anyone tell you you’re worth less than what you desire most out of life.
To have a brighter and more fruitful life prepare yourself the best you know how to make it a reality, and if you fall short look to yourself as the reason. Pick yourself back up if you fall and decide to be better the next time and to accept “I did” as the end result, not "I should have."
Water your side of the fence and someone, somewhere, will look to your harvest as what’s wanted.
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