What exactly is modesty?
The definition of modesty(Google) is: The quality or state of being unassuming or moderate in the estimation of one's abilities.
Somewhere along the way, we as people have taken the meaning of this word and transformed it to mean one of an assumed weakness or contrived inability to accurately portray our real abilities. This particular way of thinking about this word is a major problem for human beings and for living a life where you receive what you're worth.
The place where this word has taken on its new meaning stems directly from what different faith practices tell us about the word. In almost all religions the word modesty is highlighted as a word we need to understand in order to live better lives. But the real issue is not that religions are telling us how to view this word, it's that religions are wrong in their motivation for describing how to live out this word.
Modesty is best served only when someone is not boastful about their abilities, however, that doesn't mean that when asked about what we're good at we have to shy away from expounding on those gifts and talents. It's okay to tell people when asked that you are fantastic at something. I recommend being as straightforward as possible when someone asks about your prowess in a certain area. If you feel confident in your abilities then your words should be closely linked with what you produce. Without verbalizing your productive qualities you lose out on something extremely valuable: your worth.
If I were to ask the sun if it was hot, the sun would most definitely say, "Why yes Mason, I'm extremely hot!" If I was to ask a professional athlete if they're good at their sport their answer would be, "Yes Mason, I'm very good at my sport, how else did I make it to the professional level?" If you were to ask me if I think I am a smart man I would most assuredly say, "Yes, I am a smart man and I'm proud of that fact." If I was to state anything other than my worth how would I ever know how I feel about myself. More importantly, how will the world ever know what you're worth if you can't come to grips with your own self-worth?
How are we as people ever going to fully understand our wealth of ability if we continue to downplay our gifts when asked about them?
This is a radical way of thinking that takes some getting used to, but it's a way of thinking one needs to wrap their mind around if anyone expects to change their lot in life. Let me present another scenario to you and you can tell me what makes more sense:
Two people are up for the same promotion, both are asked to meet with their boss for their final interview to decide who gets the promotion. When employee "A" walks into the office the boss asks, "How would you rate your ability in your current job, how good are you at what you do?" Employee "A" responds with, "I have maxed out my ability in my current position, I have outgrown its duties and I feel like my talents are best used in a new setting with more responsibility and a higher pay bracket. When employee "B" is asked the same question he responds with, "I think I have done a pretty good job with handling my responsibility, I think I could handle more."
Which person in your mind deserves the promotion? I say employee A does; he was more confident, and more straightforward with his belief in his ability, transpiring into a more qualified approach to obtaining the promotion.
Employee B was trying to be modest in his answer and it cost him his promotion. So you see that modesty can be a hindrance at times if not used in the proper ways. Modesty is great for those who choose to be timid and weak as an excuse for not obtaining what they want most. However, if you choose to be strong and live a life where you get what you deserve, you need to understand that being confident in what you're great at is okay, it's the right choice and it's the only sure way to getting what you deserve.
Where people get caught up is in the boasting category. Boasting is the unwarranted production of words describing something you think you're good at. Boasting is the ugly cousin of modesty and it's where people fail to see that what they're saying is of no interest to the entertaining party.
If I ask you if you're good at something and you say you're okay at it because you believe modesty is the best policy, then guess what?.. I'm not going to ask you again, nor will I pay you what you deserve for your services. How could I? If you don't know what you're worth how am I supposed to know?
I see so many people not getting what they want most in life and a large part of the reason for this is, people not believing that they deserve what they want most. Why is that? Why not choose to believe in your gifts and talents?
Don't let your religious leaders convince you that proclaiming you're amazing at something is bad, what's bad is their stifling of your chance to succeed in life. For if you tell the universe you don't really deserve what you want most then you'll receive more feelings and instances of not having what you want. This is the great mystery of the universe and the secret to having what you desire most.
If someone asks you if you're great at this or that and you actually are then tell them you are, make them believe you're the person they need to be talking to and make them believe your words have merit and value through their sincerity and authenticity. Believe in yourself and in your abilities and in turn use those gifts you're blessed with to create prosperity and success in any avenue of your life. This is even true for romance and relationships. If I'm dating someone and they don't know who I truly am because I shied away from honesty in some shape or form, the other person won't respect me enough to make the relationship worthwhile in the longrun. It's also a fantastic way of narrowing down who's worth your romantic love and trust.
We are judged by others for the words and deeds created by our own hands and mouths. Being falsely modest only creates a world for yourself that creates no choice other than to be that which meets your viewpoints surrounding your life; a world of lack and want. The contrary is true as well which just might be the most beautiful gift the creator ever gave us; the ability to create our own universe within the created universe. Reality is literally nothing more than how we CHOOSE to see it. Our lives are a byproduct of our choices and how we choose to see the world around us. Why not choose a life that produces more fruit? Why not choose to see your worth?
Forget what anyone has ever told you about your worth and honestly listen to the words that you're about to read: You are beautiful, you are kind, you are full of potential, you are the most beautiful gift in creation and you are worth whatever you think you're worth. You are the only judge of your value and no one has the right to change your mind into thinking that you're lacking in value somehow. You are me, I am you and together we make up the essential "we." Apart we all seem separate or lacking in someway but without every one's unique qualities we would have no way to be a species that continues on. We're all essential beings and we're all worthy of the heavens themself.
Try to stay away from boasting, however, if someone asks you about your ability in some facet of life, don't for a second tell them you're less than you are. This serves only the prupose of keeping your current life out of the reach from the life you desire most.
If you don't fully believe in yourself no one else will.
We are all what we believe we are so choose to believe in yourself as 100% worthy of a beautiful and fruitful life. No one accomplished anything worthwhile in this life if they didn't have the courage to first tell someone that they can, and will do it.
If you let the universe believe that you are less than what you are for the sake of modesty, you'll never really get what you want most out of life and the best you can hope for is modest returns.
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