Everybody goes through a rights of passage of sorts when growing into an adult. One of the major hurdles to jump over comes in the form of falling in love; but is it love we find ourselves falling into or is it something else entirely?
I define romantic love as: an emotion of strong affection and personal attachment to another that transcends the everyday feelings of desire. Love to me is weightless and at the same time worthy of the weight it produces.
Infatuation for a person can be defined as: the state of being completely carried away by an un-reasoned passion or desire.
I believe love represents all that's beautiful in a relationship. Love spawns the absence of self-need and gives rise to selfless giving. Love makes all things possible and provides wings of hope and imagination. Love makes people think of another's needs over their own while managing to produce balance within the equation.
Infatuation on the other hand produces no positive benefits... it limits, it hinders, it hides and it stifles the ability for a person to grow with someone for the mutual benefit of both. Infatuation is often the breeding ground for the rise of jealousy and the cause for the breakup of otherwise quality friendships.
Love gives, infatuation takes. Love enables, infatuation disables. Love inspires, infatuation limits.
When surveying your own relationship ask yourself which of these circumstances apply to you and you'll know whether or not you're in love or wrapped up in a relationship built on the not so solid foundation of infatuation.
To know if you're in love with your significant other or just swept away in infatuation you need to only ask yourself one question: Am I better because this person is in my life?
I define romantic love as: an emotion of strong affection and personal attachment to another that transcends the everyday feelings of desire. Love to me is weightless and at the same time worthy of the weight it produces.
Infatuation for a person can be defined as: the state of being completely carried away by an un-reasoned passion or desire.
I believe love represents all that's beautiful in a relationship. Love spawns the absence of self-need and gives rise to selfless giving. Love makes all things possible and provides wings of hope and imagination. Love makes people think of another's needs over their own while managing to produce balance within the equation.
Infatuation on the other hand produces no positive benefits... it limits, it hinders, it hides and it stifles the ability for a person to grow with someone for the mutual benefit of both. Infatuation is often the breeding ground for the rise of jealousy and the cause for the breakup of otherwise quality friendships.
Love gives, infatuation takes. Love enables, infatuation disables. Love inspires, infatuation limits.
When surveying your own relationship ask yourself which of these circumstances apply to you and you'll know whether or not you're in love or wrapped up in a relationship built on the not so solid foundation of infatuation.
To know if you're in love with your significant other or just swept away in infatuation you need to only ask yourself one question: Am I better because this person is in my life?
I think alot of relationships start out as infatuation for each other because it is new and raw and fun. The honeymoon period of a relationship is a key example of infatuation because two people are so completely carried away with each other that there is nothing wrong. Its raw passion, the sex is great and you will do anything to make that other person happy.
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