If you have been blessed enough to have found someone who can stand you as much as you can stand them then CONGRATULATIONS!... you’re in a relationship, a partnership, a union or some special combination of sorts.
I’m downplaying the beauty of a relationship and the joy it can bring on purpose, partly because I think it’s good to approach such a subject of meaningfulness with a light-heart and partly because I think it’s good to base the value of your current relationship within the confines of a most basic idea- being able to stand one another.
The true test of a meaningful relationship is whether each member identified within it can honestly ask themselves: am I in this because my counterpart is everything I’m not or is this just something I’m doing to bide my time until Mr. or Mrs. RIGHT comes along?
Depending on your answer you should have an honest mode of evaluation of the current relationship you find yourself a part of and for your sake, I hope you’re able to be honest with yourself.
The inspiration for this post came on my walk home from the gym today, where I caught a glimpse into the volatile breakdown in a relationship between what looked like two ordinary people.
These two most likely pay their taxes and they probably even fulfill their civic duty of voting… but today this picture of American bliss was interrupted by an argument over how to properly shift gears on a bicycle. Yes, these two love birds became quaking crows over the simple feat of riding a bike.
As I stood and watched (yes I stood there and watched; what would you have done?) what I’m appeared to be the breakdown of their bliss-filled union I could not help but ask myself one question: why?
Why choose to argue (yes choose, in everything we have a choice) over such an inconsequential thing like the workings of a bicycle? Why not instead see the other individual as your better half and as someone with whom your only duty is to love, respect, and support? Why are we so quick to point out the minor flaws in our significant others rather than constructively help them grow as our cherished counterpart?
2 reasons: You’re not right for each other and/or you’re not ready to go your separate ways. Either can be the reason and yet somehow both are dependent upon the another for existence and evaluation purposes.
If you don’t look at your present love interest with grace in your eyes and acceptance in your heart, I hate to tell you, but it’s time to part ways amicably.
We date because it’s what we as humans do, it’s how we decipher the trophy fish from the guppy, and it’s our only way of narrowing down what will eventually be our last, great catch.
When you do find that special person that you love and adore, keep in mind one thing: give that person a fighting chance to be who they were created to be with as little static and friction from your side of the fence as possible.
Love someone because it comes natural, not unlike riding a bicycle because once anger, insecurity or deceit creeps in as the nature of your relationship and you don't have love as the bind that holds, a break-up is the only thing waiting around the corner once your significant other reminds you how to properly ride a bicycle.
You deserve only the best in all things, especially in a relationship where comfort and inspiration are supposed to ooze from. Be honest with yourself and your partner or as a by-product disaster is all that can be expected.
Choose love for yourself before you enter into a relationship and it will be much easier to give another the love and consideration they deserve when times get tough.
I’m downplaying the beauty of a relationship and the joy it can bring on purpose, partly because I think it’s good to approach such a subject of meaningfulness with a light-heart and partly because I think it’s good to base the value of your current relationship within the confines of a most basic idea- being able to stand one another.
The true test of a meaningful relationship is whether each member identified within it can honestly ask themselves: am I in this because my counterpart is everything I’m not or is this just something I’m doing to bide my time until Mr. or Mrs. RIGHT comes along?
Depending on your answer you should have an honest mode of evaluation of the current relationship you find yourself a part of and for your sake, I hope you’re able to be honest with yourself.
The inspiration for this post came on my walk home from the gym today, where I caught a glimpse into the volatile breakdown in a relationship between what looked like two ordinary people.
These two most likely pay their taxes and they probably even fulfill their civic duty of voting… but today this picture of American bliss was interrupted by an argument over how to properly shift gears on a bicycle. Yes, these two love birds became quaking crows over the simple feat of riding a bike.
As I stood and watched (yes I stood there and watched; what would you have done?) what I’m appeared to be the breakdown of their bliss-filled union I could not help but ask myself one question: why?
Why choose to argue (yes choose, in everything we have a choice) over such an inconsequential thing like the workings of a bicycle? Why not instead see the other individual as your better half and as someone with whom your only duty is to love, respect, and support? Why are we so quick to point out the minor flaws in our significant others rather than constructively help them grow as our cherished counterpart?
2 reasons: You’re not right for each other and/or you’re not ready to go your separate ways. Either can be the reason and yet somehow both are dependent upon the another for existence and evaluation purposes.
If you don’t look at your present love interest with grace in your eyes and acceptance in your heart, I hate to tell you, but it’s time to part ways amicably.
We date because it’s what we as humans do, it’s how we decipher the trophy fish from the guppy, and it’s our only way of narrowing down what will eventually be our last, great catch.
When you do find that special person that you love and adore, keep in mind one thing: give that person a fighting chance to be who they were created to be with as little static and friction from your side of the fence as possible.
Love someone because it comes natural, not unlike riding a bicycle because once anger, insecurity or deceit creeps in as the nature of your relationship and you don't have love as the bind that holds, a break-up is the only thing waiting around the corner once your significant other reminds you how to properly ride a bicycle.
You deserve only the best in all things, especially in a relationship where comfort and inspiration are supposed to ooze from. Be honest with yourself and your partner or as a by-product disaster is all that can be expected.
Choose love for yourself before you enter into a relationship and it will be much easier to give another the love and consideration they deserve when times get tough.
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